I love movies

Last night I watched ZELIG and BANDIDAS – truly opposite bookends of the intellectual spectrum.  Zelig I’d seen before and still think is great.  Bandidas… there was a little bondage, a little cosplay, some corsets, a bit of three-way fantasy play, and a script that wasn’t horrendous.

World Record Naked Bicycle Day

Yesterday was the World Record Naked Bicycle Day. I didn’t have a bike and didn’t plan on joining in. I guess I got caught up in the excitement because I ended up doing my own version of Pamplona’s “running of the bulls”. I even led the pack for a while. Then my friend and I switched – he ran and I biked. Someone along the route was handing out free Red Bulls and that really made me feel like a marathon runner. Then at the end we all went for a swim at the beach and dried off in the sun. Truly a great day.

The night before was the ILLUMINARES lantern festival and it was incredible! Everyone had a different lantern design, no two were the same. I saw a seaplane, a hippo, a loch ness monster, a train set, and serveral that defied description. Two that like liked the most were a scale model of Basil’s cathedral (in Red Square) and a chandeliere made entirely of bamboo and rice paper. I can’t wait to download the pictures from my camera.

Sadly, my home laptop is in the shop for about two weeks with the digital measles so I can’t post as often as before. Plenty of time to get in the habit of good exercise.

Fan Mail!

Thank you very much Dan. You helped me out a lot. Before I talked with you I didn’t feel like a slave at all. I didn’t feel able to express myself. In the past I knew I was a slave and I felt it in me. But then I didn’t. And I felt less able to express myself my emotions and my thoughts. But when I talked with you about it everything seemed to be clarified. And I do again feel like a slave. And I am not afraid of anything with my Master. I feel I can express myself to him without worry. He says it’s as though I’ve had an epiphony. Things that I used to squirm about in fear even just the idea of them I don’t anymore. I don’t have any fear for them. I am extremely appreciative of your help. You are a truly helpful and intelligent man. And would make a great Master for any sub. Thank you Sir.

–M

She’s gushing, I’m blushing.

SWMD4SFs

Yes, I am looking for a committed relationship. Every time I tried to find vanilla I met nice girls who refused to listen to my very simple requests (like don’t make a mess in my house) and there really wasn’t anything I could do to train them. I really do hope that working through here I can find someone who’s already in the right mindset (eg that of not ignoring my needs) and that I can reward her by applying my creativity to our kink and non-kink desires.

When mailing me,

Please, people. Boys, girls, tops, bottoms, subs, and doms. Please. When you write a letter, put a little structure into it. I know in this day and age everybody likes to bang out two lines with no introduction and no goodbye at the end. Personally, I find it distasteful. It shows more respect for so little effort. Put a “Dear SoAndSo,” at the start and a some kind of parting message, be it “Your humble slave,”, “Thinking of ways to torment you,”, or whatever. Especially herw where so much of the interation has to do with respect, I would think everyone would do it.

Thank you.

Weekend Getaway

Good news! Remember my friends, the Bs? They’ve got a cabin on the island that they never use and they said I could whenever the mood struck me SO I’ve arranged for us to go up there for the weekend. Two whole days with no one to hear your screams. Ssss… it makes me shiver just to think of the things I’m going to do to you. Once we get off the ferry and ride my moped up to the cabin we’re going to have to come back into town and get groceries. It’s about an hour’s walk either way. Given that nobody knows us, traffic is light, and it’s a big island I don’t want you to get lost on you will have to bring your leash along. What’s that? You don’t have one? Don’t you mean to say “Of course I will bring my leash, even if I have to go and buy a new one!” As if I’m going to be the only one to spend money on toys. The amount of rope I’m going to need isn’t cheap. I have to remember to check if they have power – I’d hate to bring my Hitachi all the way up there only to find no outlets. Same goes for the video camera, hm? Note to self: Pack batteries just in case. Ok, so that’s food, toys… ah, clothes. Here is a list of clothing that need to be packed. See to it, please. Note the fact that none of your things are on that list. There won’t be room for us to carry more, so I had to make some cutbacks. the easiest way to keep what you have clean is to just take it off while we are at the cabin proper. I know you’ll be good so you might earn some of it back, just as I know you’ll tell me if you get cold in the evenings. I don’t have much of an agenda planned but I have been formulating a few schemes. plots. I’m thinking “Survivor: BDSM” where every contest is a reward contest and every competition is with yourself. You will serve. You will beg. You will be embarassed. You will be excited. You will be brought to tears and to orgasm, in no particular order. You will learn to talk dirty by the end of this weekend. You will wear this temporary collar with pride because you are such a beautiful, well-mannered creature. You will write out a list of things you have only dreamed about doing. You will do things inside and outside, clothed and naked, gagged and loudly. Most importantly, you will learn about yourself. See you tonight, D

Hooray for science!

http://www.weirdspot.com/index.php/weblog/whipping_cures_depression/

Let me know if you’re feeling blue -

I have just the cure for you.

It’s four feet long and made of leather,

it cures anxiety like no other.

Heartache, grumpy, lonely, bored?

Cheering you up is my reward.

Your medical plan won’t cover this

bottoming to reach new bliss.

It doesn’t come in a patch or pill;

no allergies, no perscription fill.

It won’t cost you and arm and a leg

(You may be required to beg)

So drop your knicker, bend, and grab;

at your problem I’ll take a stab.

Go on, be brave, and take a whirl:

a rosy bottom makes a happy girl.

How do you keep perverts from taking advantage of you?

I would say that anyone willing to entertain your kink is at least as perverted as you. The real question is: are they selfish assholes? There are a lot of warning signs:

• do they communicate well with you?
• do they care about how you feel and what you want?
• do they make sure that, even though they are in charge, your needs are met?
• do they listen when you have the courage to speak up and demand something?
• if you demand something when you already feel you are owed, do they try to give it or do they try to make a deal for something that would cause you to give even more?

These are just some of the warning signs. Remember: Not getting what you need is a Hard Limit for everybody.

Hello. My name is Dan, and I have a problem.

Seriously, never take me to a good sex shop.  It would be like spiking an alcoholic’s drink.  Thank god I never go in those place with more money than I need.  So many toys!  Must… show… restraint…   ….to …cashier

…ask …if ..they have it…   …in blue…

Meetings

I’ve thought long and hard about face-to-face meetings (aka first contact situations) and I’ve decided that these will be the rules to guide us.

1. I will not be the person to suggest the meeting.  You, the wary submissive, will do so when you are ready to meet.
2. It will be a public place of your choosing.
3. I encourage you to bring a friend.  Have them sit a little distance away.  I’m sure that if you explain it’s a sort of blind date they’ll understand.
4. If the energy between us somehow inexplicably tragically …off… then just use your safeword.  We’ll call it a day and talk about it later online.
5. If, however, you want to signal that you’re ready to take this a step further then go to the bathroom, remove your underwear, and bring it back to me.  I won’t flash it around the room.
6. If you are attracted but undecided, that’s Ok too.
7. For the purposes of easy identification, please wear a leather cuff on your right ankle.  If anyone asks tell them you’re tired of those dainty silver ankle bracelets and you’re starting a new fad.
8. I will not set up a meeting and then fail to appear.
9. I will not be late by more than 5 minutes without having given you a phone call to warn you.
10. I will keep my big hands to myself no matter how much I may want to gently run them up and down your sides, then cup your breasts and dig my fingers into your tender flesh while whispering salacious things in your ear.

I think the message is clear but I’ll spell it out: I’m in no hurry.  I’m not good at picking up on signals with people I’ve just met so there’s a very clear way of moving the meeting in whatever way you desire.  I want you to know that I’m doing my part so that you can trust and be at ease.